Because of the pursuing partner making unreasonable needs, that’s a red banner.
It is classic mental training at play right right here. Just like the love bombing could be the reinforcement that is positive do just exactly what i would like, and I’ll shower you with love), the devaluation could be the negative consequence (you did something amiss, so I’m punishing you).
Devaluation began when Lisa stepped away to invest time with a buddy. The once-loving boyfriend unexpectedly became a harsh critic, finding fault and threatening abandonment. His abrupt improvement in attitude was even more jarring since it seemed provoked by objectively behavior that is neutral. Continue reading On the other side hand, if there’s an abrupt change in the sort of attention, from affectionate and loving to managing and aggravated,